I just read the blog I wrote the day after the election last November. It is awful and depressing and I feel worse today than I did then. The shock has worn off, no longer dully protecting me from this deep and abiding grief that I cannot seem to overcome. I am doing something I always wanted to do. I am a snowbird. I am in Florida for three months, where I rented an adorable little cottage that reminds me of nothing so much as our place in Maine. It could be bigger and fancier, but it is not. It’s small. Cozy. Beautifully located. Minimal. The little porch stretches across the front, screens open on all three sides. Walking distance from the beach and from the most quaint little downtown you will see anywhere. And I am miserable. I thought it might be better here but it is not. There is not a lot to distract from what is happening to my country. At least at home in Connecticut, I worked like a maniac. Worked and drove and slept and worked and drove and slept. I didn’t have the time to fret and stew and wait for our fate to come crashing down upon our heads. I look at the internet and follow the hearings on C-Span and watch my country collapse. All my fears come true. One after another. I knew the day after the election I did not want to come here but I had made a good-size deposit and foolish me, I thought I might get better. R&R. I am a social creature and I love seeing people and laughing and socializing but I have a bit of the hermit in me as well. I was looking forward to being by myself with my dog and my books, and seeing people when I wanted to. I have been here since January 1 and I have not gone to the beach that is five blocks away, not one time. I have gone there when it was cool and sat at a table and looked at the water. A couple of times. It was beautiful and noisy and peaceful. But I have not thrown my book and a beach chair and my minty iced tea in the car and driven to the water. And I feel bad about this. I feel bad that I have become so weakened that I am giving my power to a crazy person and bunch of crazy sycophants, and a bunch of plain evil people. And the longer this goes on, the more I blame people who voted for him. I thought this might ebb but it has increased. Anyone who cast a vote for this horrible little troll is a horrible little troll. I don’t believe I will ever forgive any of them. Unfortunately, they are taking me down with them. Day by day, I see the evidence mount, and I realize how naïve I was before November 8. I truly believed in my heart that people would do the right thing. And they did not.
Sometimes, I feel little blips of hope. I feel like I can do something and make a difference and stop this madness. But I cannot. Because unlike other elected officials, this insane narcissist does not give a fiddler’s fuck what one single one of us thinks, you know – except apparently Meryl Streep. He seems to have been overly concerned with her. I try and I try and I try and I can come out of this for short periods. I have friends who have seen me laugh and joke. I have beachy plans next week with a good friend and the week after with my nephew. And I know I will feel good and be happy then. And after that, I fear I will be exactly like I am today.
Someone said to me today, “I wonder sometimes if I am not seeing things as clearly as you do.” And I am positive that is it. I see this. It is coming like the proverbial freight train. I can’t stop it. I am helpless in the path.
This is my life now.