I have not written a blog for a very long time. I have been in a bad patch and I could not write because I didn’t want to let people know how crappy “my patch” was. But I am trying again. And I feel better. And I am taking my own advice and pulling myself up by my bootstraps. See below.
You don’t owe anyone your life. Not one single person.
It is OK to tell your grown children to try to make some decisions on their own.
If anyone treats you like you are stupid – and he/she is being a superior bitch – you may tell him/her to fuck off. If you are not able, call me and I will do it for you.
Attitude is everything.
Don’t be afraid to cook. If it doesn’t come out right, throw it in the trash. And don’t let anyone else decide if it is “right”. That is for you to figure out yourself. I have been amazed to find out how many people worry about this. I think many of you know I can cook. But I will have you know that as a child, I once broiled a birthday cake for my mother. It was very flat. But I tried. And we all laughed. It was OK.
Do what feels good.
When you are 40 or 50 years old, it is no longer OK to blame your parents for the things you do. You are an adult and it is time to take charge of your life and make it right.
Put effort into everything you do. You can make things better. Love hard. Play hard. Sleep hard.
The truth will set you free. Don’t keep bad secrets. Tell someone. It forces the badness to dissipate.
Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke.
Life is about choices. Make good ones. If you wake up every day and feel crappy, then that is what you have chosen. If you live with someone who abuses you, you are allowing and choosing it. If you never feel happiness, you are choosing that. Think about it.
Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. People can help you but only you can sustain a change, an improvement in your life. Where there is life, there is hope.
Never eat anything bigger than your head.
Many things will be as good as you make them. For example, if you put effort into learning about and training your dog, you will have a fantastic dog. It is not a coincidence.
There are people out there who are sociopaths. When you discover them, leave a wide berth.
Don’t assume anything about people. You really don’t know what is going on in their heads unless you know them awfully well, and for a long time, and you have the capacity to keep your mind open.
Try not to be so hard on yourself.
Eat the ice cream.